Tuesday, May 25, 2021

Setting Up Housekeeping


 


While I happily explored my new home, my parents, with very limited language skills, busied themselves with the challenges of housekeeping in a new country.

Up to the present time, wrote Dad after the first month, we have done nothing much more than seek a house and try to settle. It certainly takes time to get straightened around so one can live decently.

Even having a mattress made was an ordeal. They had to buy raw wool, have a lady wash it then dry it thoroughly and . . . get the “colchonero” [mattress maker] to make the mattress. What a job and what a smell! The wool [was] filthy, greasy, filled with manure and everything else. They say the wool loses one third its weight by washing. You can buy mattresses all made up but then they usually have dirty wool in them and when it gets hot they smell like a barnyard.

Besides the mattress issue, Mother added, I have no stove or washer yet. . .both are ordered but haven’t come. We’ll have to pay about $175. It kinda made me disgusted to read that [my brother] Harlan paid $49 for his washer. I can still see a nice stove in Montgomery Ward’s that I wish I had brought but I didn’t. The worst part of it is that Rita has gotten such an appetite since we’ve been settled in this house, and since her stomach and eye teeth[1] are through, that I just can’t get food ready fast enough for her. She’ll climb up in the high chair that we borrowed from Dowdy’s and keep saying “I want to eat.” A lot of the time I have to get her something quick if I want any rest for my nerves.

For my parents, furniture and appliances were expensive. However, Mother found consolation in that food was quite cheap. For 2 lbs. of boneless beef we pay less than 25 cents, she wrote. For about 19 cents I got 2 lbs. of leg of lamb today. For 3 liters of milk we pay 10 cents (equals about 3 ½ quarts). At that time in the States a gallon of milk cost 70 cents.

In a later letter Dad wrote: We bought apples the other day (100 for 37 cents) and canned 14 quarts. Several weeks ago we canned some lovely pears and got 14 quarts. We did what has been done under great difficulty for all we had was this one burner, a calentador”.

Food was very reasonably priced, but there was the problem of refrigeration. Dad wrote: we had a man to bring us ice for our icebox but now there are not enough people buying it to warrant him staying on the job anymore so that means we must go after our ice. It is quite a problem with me for I have nothing with which to carry it, not even a wagon. In a later letter he tells of taking me to the market and carrying the ice on the back of the stroller.

To solve this problem, my parents wanted to buy a kerosene operated refrigerator, but they cost between 600 - 800 pesos [170 US$]. At one point, wrote Dad: Brother Dowdy and I are thinking of looking into making an automatic one. If we knew the chemical with which they work, we think we would do it.

Both were great handymen, do-it-yourselfers. Dad spent much of his time in Brother Dowdy’s workshop. He explained, I just felt we had to get settled before we could do much of anything. I have now made two kitchen cabinets, two bookcases, a typing table and a mimeograph table. Then added, By the way, these things were made almost entirely from the boxes we brought from the States. That’s my father, ever resourceful and wasting nothing. Mother added that wood was very scarce and cabinets they could have bought were poor quality. These we’ve made we can take anywhere we go.

Mother hired a girl to help wax the floors. Dust storms are common. All of our floors are of very smooth tile that shows every bit of dust so we’ve decided to wax them and have them dusted every day. This will be easier than scrubbing them every day. The young girl began helping on a regular basis for $5 a month.

Tuesday, April 2, 1946, my father turned twenty-five. The new stove arrived that very day. My mother wrote: we had a big birthday celebration at our house.  There were ten around the table. . .we had a big beef roast, mashed potatoes and gravy, cauliflower, cottage cheese, applesauce, cake and ice-cream. Mrs. Dowdy made the three layers for the cake and I iced it. She also brought the cauliflower, and the mixture for the ice-cream. . .and some of her plates.

Lynn and Lois Schrock—the other young missionary couple we would have sailed with in September had our visas arrived in time—were the surprise guests from Río Cuarto. They stayed with us that week. It was nice to have them with us, said Mother. While here Mrs. Schrock learned to knit and Lynn made a magazine stand.

Wednesday of that week, my parents had their first official language class. For the first two weeks the teacher could only give them a half-hour lesson; they were disappointed. We need two hours a week if not more, they wrote. However, their teacher had previously given them a homework assignment—to translate an article from La Voz, a Christian magazine. Already they were using their limited language on a daily basis and Dad was even preparing a sermon in Spanish to read in church, that is, after the teacher found time to look it over and make corrections.

A week after Dad’s birthday the expensive washing machine arrived. It is a beauty and we believe we will like it very much, but right now there is some defect with the roller gears. We have the guarantee, so we feel sure they will make it right. We already had two large tubs for rinsing and so I made two small benches for them. They will be on castors, so it will be [easy] to handle. We also bought a rubber tube to run the hot water into the tubs. Right now we are washing in the bathroom because there is a mechanism there for heating the water. It operates like a gasoline stove and heats the water as it runs through a coil. It has no storage tank, but it heats as you draw the water, and it does get hot enough!

Mother was busy making her home beautiful and enjoying the process. Dad wrote: Kathryn finished the studio couch. It surely looks nice. . . I hope to make a chair to match it sometime. We have more fun studying and working and studying and working. We feel like we began our married life over again.

Few of us have our very words and antics recorded regularly from infancy and toddlerhood. However, as a first-born in a foreign land, far away from grandparents and family, mine were routinely preserved in the letters.

We had quite a scare last week when the baby fell asleep on the toilet and fell against another article of furniture in the bathroom. She broke the tips off her two upper front teeth and cut her lips just a little. She cried for a long time, but finally went to sleep. [Decades later, I tend to fall asleep at the computer!]

Rita is getting more loveable every day. She surprises us with new words and often says, excuse me, when she belches. She also says, thank you and please quite often. We told her that Grandpa made the handle to our dutch oven and for quite a while after that she pointed to everything and said “Grandpa made it.”

Rita prays for you every morning and often wants to get your picture off of the mantel above the fireplace and look at it. She’ll point to each one and say “Gampa” or “Papa” and “Gamma” and “Uncle Phil”. She knows Aunt Eleanor and Uncle Dan too. Right now she is sitting at her Daddy’s desk looking for trouble. The drawer is opening now and one by one the things are going out. -----“un momentito”-----Just rescued some nice long pieces of lead that would have been broken in a minute.

A “verdulero”(vegetable salesman) came to the house the other day and while I was going to get some money she walked to the door and said “Buenos días” just as if she were the one to tend to the business.

My parents wished they could send photos of my progress, but film was too expensive in Argentina. They asked for some to be sent and were so tickled to get it. The plan was to take some pictures of me with the lovely flowers before fall and winter set in.

In general, my parents’ life was good. They faced hardships and inconveniences, but they had the joys of family life, their work and their faith. Summarizing the experience, my father said: We are certainly happy to be here. We came because we felt that the Lord was calling us here and that it would be a place to serve where others might not choose to go. We find some distinct advantages. We need never worry about getting fired and looking for another church. The children have the opportunity to grow up bilingual and also to travel.

I am reminded of Jesus’ words in the Sermon on the Mount. More than once he admonishes us to not worry about life, food and clothing and all the things we need to live. He knows what we need and he cares for us more than the lilies of the field!  Rather “seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you (Matthew 6:33).”


[1] Lower and upper canine teeth as they used to be called.


Friday, May 14, 2021

The Move to La Carlota

Escudo--Coat of Arms


The search for a place to live continued in La Carlota, a much smaller town sixty-five miles southeast of Río Cuarto. We traveled there to visit the other Grace Brethren missionary family, the Dowdys—Paul, Dortha and the boys. As Mother writes, They treated us royally while we were there.

The real estate agent hired in Río Cuarto to search out a home for us remained unsuccessful. Meanwhile, Dad noted on February 16, Brother Dowdy and I canvassed La Carlota for a house and found one - after a day and a half. . . It is a very lovely place with four rooms, a bath, kitchen, wash house, two garages, a large patio and a sort of wide hallway. The rent is 70 pesos or $17.50 per month. We do praise the Lord for this and are looking forward to moving in by about February 20. Mother added, Our new home in Carlota has a nice, large, shady patio. The house was a doctor’s home and he still has his offices in the front.

At that time, my parents expected to live in La Carlota for a year or so while learning the language. Dad added, Although we do not say much in Spanish yet, we are understanding more and more every day.

During our visit, Brother Dowdy introduced us to two smaller towns he visits regularly—Santa Eufemia and Los Cisnes. Dad commented: The work seems very interesting, but I don’t see how he gets around to all of it. He leaves for these various places about 4 or 5 p.m. and doesn’t get home until midnight.

In Los Cisnes, a lady was hired to tutor my parents—Clara Debanne, one of the believers there who is. . . very talented . . . speaks English fluently, . . . can give us the best meaning and connotation to the various words.

The group at La Carlota had a welcome service for us in the Dowdy’s patio. Kathryn and I both said a few words. I played my horn. Brother Dowdy read scripture, and showed some pictures of the United States. It seemed wonderful to see many faces of various friends, pastors and relatives. 

Perhaps Dad felt a twinge of homesickness, but not for long. His next comment was, we are enjoying Argentina and are very anxious to get settled so we can really put forth every effort to the learning of the language. We believe there is a real future for this work.

About the return trip to Río Cuarto, Mother wrote, Rita was worse than I’ve ever seen her. Half the journey she cried. I generally take milk along, but since she broke her bottle and it was only a two-and-a-half hour ride we decided we could make it. Oh what a time we had. We were met at the bus station and taken by taxi--a horse-drawn carriage--to the mission station. When we got here she drank three glasses of milk.

The day before the trip, our boxes had arrived from Buenos Aires and for the most part remained unopened. The sewing machine came through pretty well. Mother added, however, that the mimeograph was bent in four or five places and will take some patience and work to get it into running order.

Then, February 16, my parents caught a glimpse into the local political scene. Mother said, Last night I got only a few hours’ sleep as outside our window they were preparing for a great political meeting. They built a large platform for the Democratic candidates, Tamborini and Mosca. If these two men get in office we’ll have seen the president and vice-president of Argentina. At 6:30 in the morning they began shooting off bombs to announce the meeting. They kept it up until about 7:15. You can imagine what it sounded like just 30 feet away.

February 24 Dad wrote: Today was election day. I guess they always have things of that nature on Sunday. The country is very tense. Probably more interest has been shown in this election than any for years. Four parties have combined in their candidates to defeat Perón.

Newly arrived, my parents had formed no opinion as to the best candidate. Dad didn’t know what was best, but I do pray that there shall be more freedom for the gospel. Who won the election? Perón.

Juan Domingo Perón was an army officer who joined a coup in 1943 against the government. His popularity and influence grew rapidly, due to measures he took to help the working class when he was appointed secretary of labor. Later he became minister of war and  vice president. In October 1945, however, he was ousted and imprisoned in a coup led by civilians and officers of an ultra conservative Catholic mindset. His charismatic mistress, Eva Duarte, inspired an uprising of the workers, which forced his release on October 17. That night he addressed the thousands from the balcony of the presidential palace and promised victory in the coming presidential election. Four days later, he married Eva, memorialized in the musical “Evita” and “Don’t Cry for Me Argentina.”   

Years later I saw images of Juan and Evita in every classroom and joined the student body singing the Peronist March. Here is a sample of what I remember to this day, although the entire song has nine stanzas.

Los muchachos peronistas                                          The Peronist boys
todos unidos triunfaremos                                          
All united will stand
y como siempre daremos                                           
And as always we will
un grito de corazón:                                                   
Sing our hearts out
¡Viva Perón! ¡Viva Perón!
                                         ¡Hail Perón! ¡Hail Perón!  

While Argentines decided the course of their nation, my parents settled in for a lifetime of service.

Some of what little they brought with them in the way of furnishings was damaged. The sewing machine suffered a few severed joints in the cover, but the mechanism was tip top. The dishes, however, suffered more. About 15 different pieces were broken. The wood stove had one small crack in the base, of no importance. Dad grieved most over the mimeograph machine and said, The cylinder had some dents in it and several of the shafts were bent. I’ll need to see if I can get it working. I know my amazing handyman Daddy was successful because I remember as a child helping with the many mimeographing projects.

Assuming availability and better prices in the city, Dad and Mother went furniture shopping in Río Cuarto. They bargained for a dining room set and wrote down the price. When they went to pick it up, the salesman wanted 100 pesos more and in the end refused to sell. They were able to purchase a bedroom set consisting of a bed, chest of drawers, and wardrobe.

Monday, February 18, the rented truck was sent on ahead, loaded with everything we owned. We rode with the Dowdys, who had come to the city for dental work. By six P.M. we had our belongings in our new home.  Tuesday we bought a dining room set. . . a table, six chairs, and two buffets. . . quite nice looking. . . costing 420 pesos. . . I got a desk for 50 pesos. . .We also bought an ice box, a “calentador” (small kerosene burner). It starts with alcohol and has a pressure pump on it. Also got a small unpainted kitchen table and two kitchen chairs. A table top kerosene stove will be here within 10 to 15 days. The next thing we want is an electric washer. They cost $200 so we must wait for that. I am making a small kitchen cabinet for Kathryn and will make another before long.

Caring for a child in the best of conditions can be trying, but coping with their first, a twenty-one-month toddler, while starting life in a new home and a foreign culture, adds an additional challenge. My mother and father, like many young parents, alternately showed good insights and made mistakes. 

Mother had not anticipated the annoying insects of summer and noted that I was all peppered with mosquito bites.

She also mentioned, The last few nights Rita has been crying herself to sleep since we’ve taken her bottle from her. From my current perspective as a grandmother, I ask -- What?! They took away my comfort during a time of life transition?

Then again she says, Last night she was sitting on the toidy when she fell asleep. It was so funny to see her sit and nod. I repeat -- What?! Potty training that early, during a big move and even laughing at me?

Life had its fun times too: We got the January issue of the Geographic and have enjoyed it a lot. We told Rita that Grandma and Grandpa sent it and for a long time she sat leafing through one page after another. The National Geographic subscription was my grandparents’ Christmas gift to all their missionary children every year.

Ultimately, my parents believed with all their heart the biblical promise: "The Lord is the One who will go before you. He will be with you; He will not leave you or forsake you. Do not be afraid or discouraged (Deuteronomy 31:8 HCSB)."